How to become the BEST VERSION of you! 

I grew up believing that the relationship we have with others, like the number of friends, perfect love partner etc. is the ultimate key to living a content life, but eventually, I’ve realized the relationship I share with myself is the essence of how happy I will be as I move through life.

While we hold the key to our own happiness, why is it that almost every time, it seems like an unreachable goal? Why is it so difficult to be comfortable with ourselves and accept ourselves for who we are, rather than searching for external means?

As we grow the world presents us with the idea of who we should be, what we should look like, molding us in ways in which our life revolves around less important things and ignoring the real deal i.e. being at ease with ourselves.

After all, we can become the best version of ourselves only when we become comfortable in our own skin. So here are some ways in which we can reach our authentic and assured selves.


It’s important to love, feed, exercise, and care for your body, so that your body can perform its best. Understanding what your body needs and appreciating yourself without idealizing a prototype; is an ideal way in which you can go about living through to be comfortable in your own skin - Chai & Lipstick


When you get to know yourself well, you will know what makes you come alive. It’s crucial to respect and protect it as it defines your happy self and sets limits and boundaries of who you really are. So it’s pointless following the crowd as you may be heading in the totally opposite direction to where your heart really lies. Your passion can be as simple as admiration for art, being a social butterfly or a keenness for music.


Sometimes we tend to settle down in familiar, safe and known places. We also do the same with people, it’s these people who actually shape us and tell us who we are, give us our identity.

Getting away from it all is a way in which we can discover our own self and get an honest view of our true self. In short, it strengthens and gives you a broader perspective of who you are.


If you ever find yourself bound to people or in relationships which make you feel stagnant, stuck or unhappy for some reason, the best thing to do is to rethink, change or let go.

While it may seem wise to hold on to the time invested, it’s also important to tactfully walk away when friendships and relationships cloud the ability for us to see who we really are. There are several opportunities waiting but first, we need to disentangle ourselves from the ones that will never lead to to feel comfortable in your own skin - Chai & lipstick


The most beautiful people are those that embrace and wear their flaws with confidence. It’s so very important to love yourself with those imperfections just to reach your perfect self. So own your unique looks, body type, talent and lifestyle and everything positive just follows.

Finding ourselves and being comfortable with our own skin can be liberating and rewarding and can indeed lead to a great foundation on which other amazing and authentic moments, decisions, and relationships can follow.

I really hope you enjoyed reading this, all the above tips are from my own personal experience, I have been making a lot of changes in my life lately and I really wanted to share it with you guys, because I want you to find the confident you, when things don’t work, you need to make the energy around you move, I really hope this will help.

I apologize for being slow on posts, as I mentioned earlier, I have been making changes in my life and one such change was to move from Goa ( my hometown) to Chennai (south of India) to continue to specialize in my field (clinical psychology). I will try my best to keep writing and keep you guys posted on how things have been moving for me. Please do share your comments on what you think about this article and if the steps I mentioned above have helped you in any way.

Have a great week ahead!

Article by : Amanda Fernandes | Psychologist | India



5 thoughts on “How to become the BEST VERSION of you! 

    • Hello Abhijit, I am a pscychologist by profession, most of the tips I talked about here came from a recent change of things in my own life. I had to do many changes to find a new way to be to be a better version of myself- confident, comfortable and happy 😊

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      • Hi there 😊. I really loved your post so much and I am so happy that you were able to become a better version of yourself 😊.Your blog is really awesome and inspiring. You have a great gift within you.Please continue blogging and inspire people around you 😊. And if you can please do visit my blog and let me know about it. It would be really helpful 😊. It’s about personal motivation. This is the link to my blog


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  1. I loved your article! I completely agree with you, true happiness lies within you!

    Good luck with your studies! Can’t wait to read more of your work!


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  2. I loved your article! I completely agree with you, true happiness lies within you!

    Good luck with your studies! Can’t wait to read more of your work!


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